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  • When You Become His Mother

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    In a satisfying relationship, there is usually cooperation between the partners in providing for the family’s physical needs and in fairly distributing house chores and childcare responsibilities. Unfortunately, this is…

  • Beginner’s Guide for Partners with Autism

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    Does your spouse think you have high-functioning autism (formerly known as Asperger’s)? Were you bullied a lot in middle school and high school? Did you avoid other children when you…

  • The Story of Cassandra

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    The Cassandra metaphor has been widely used by women who are in an intimate relationship with a partner who shows features of autism, whether he is officially diagnosed, self- diagnosed…

  • REAL White Paper: An Introduction to Mixed-Neurological Marriage

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    At REAL, our primary focus is mixed-neurological marriage, or a marriage between a typically developing person and a person with high-functioning autism. We offer this White Paper as our official…

  • Neurodiverse Marriages are Vulnerable to Domestic Abuse…. So which Partner is the Victim?

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    REAL Mixed-Neurological Value #11: “We believe that mixed-neurological marriages are vulnerable to domestic abuse.” If you’re aware of the happenings on Internet discussion boards and within the plethora of Facebook…

  • When Cultural and Neurological Diversity Meet

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    An encounter between people from diverse cultures frequently involves failures in communication that are caused by having different native languages, different traditions and different customs. Social interactions are prone to…

  • Autism in the Bedroom

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    This delicate topic is not usually brought up at the beginning of a couple counseling process, but eventually, it is always raised at some point. Sex is obviously an integral…

  • Transmitting on Different Waves

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    People who speak the same language expect to be able to communicate effectively with each other, especially when they have a romantic relationship. However, when one of the intimate partners…

  • The Therapist who Understood Autism in Adults

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    This story is fiction. Learn more about my use of fiction HERE. Megan’s father had high-functioning autism and today was Megan’s first day of therapy. She sat in the office…

  • High-Functioning Autism: Media vs. Reality

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    It can take many years of marriage to discover that one of the partners is on the Autism Spectrum. Sometimes it happens after one of the couple’s children undergoes diagnosis…